Focus on the positive things
How it started…
There was a time in my life when I felt like every single aspect of it sucked. Everything seemed to go wrong and nothing felt like working out. I felt like no one really cared, every single relationship was just a "convenience" thing and not one would actually last.
I felt lonely among friends and family and nothing they said could change that. Positive things that happened to me I could no longer acknowledge, all I saw was negativity.
You might have guessed it at this point: I was frustrated and depressed.
Thankfully, I overcame that relentless feeling eventually with the help of some great people who showed me another perspective. They showed me that happiness, contentment and inspiration is everywhere and so much easier achievable than most people assume. The only things you need is an open mind, a better relationship with yourself and time.
How to Find Positivity
First, what is happiness to you?
Money? Fame? Or the ultimate dream job?
Yes, you are right that doesn't sound easy to achieve, at all. Think of the simple things in life, things that you experience everyday.
Don't worry if you have no clue how to answer the question, we start way at the beginning.
How about these?
- fun night out with friends
- a stranger giving you a genuine smile
- having a nice long hot shower (a personal favourite)
- spending time with a loved one
- and here are 40 more...
Chances are at least one of these things make you happy.
It's the small things in life, the things we all can achieve.
The problem is that most of us forgot how to appreciate them on a deeper level since we are too busy being worried about anything but our own happiness to stop just for a few seconds and take in the moment and truly enjoy it.
We are also told from the day we start our education to the day we retire that we need to try hard, No!, try harder to succeed in life so we earn a lot of money, have a "real" job and be happy.
Does money make us happy?
This is a very controversial question which far wiser people than me discussed so the answer I provide here is just my personal opinion with which you do not have to agree with.
Money does not make us happy, although it takes away a lot of worries and makes us feel relieved (or it would if we had money). The aftermath of relief is a sensation very similar to happiness and the things we can buy with money sure have the ability to make us feel good...for a short time.
But happiness, true happiness is a lasting state. It is not achieved through money or everlasting success rather than changing your perspective and fully enjoying life and its perks to the fullest.
But how to achieve that?
I, just like you, am working to change my approach on things and situations in general to wake up and go to bed as a happier person. I discovered some ways that work out for me which could work out for you, too.
I am going to write and post about different approaches which, combined, might make you a happier person who enjoys life like everyone of us deserves to.
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